Monday, February 1, 2010

Speaking Heart-to-Heart

What do you think of when you hear "May we speak heart-to-heart?", or "We need to have a little heart-to-heart?"  Does it frighten you? Intrigue you? Threaten you?

What elevates normal, everyday conversation to that higher level described as heart-to-heart? And why is it something to be sought after?  I believe in the importance of having heart-to-heart conversations in our lives. I wish it were easier for me to do. Many of our relationships would benefit from increasing the quality of our communication.

Life's greatest joys come from our relationships.  In fact our existence is dependent upon this interaction with others. So I think it merits consideration on how to improve it. Consider the finest relationship you have ever had.  It probably is or was marked by absolute honesty, open communication, acceptance of differing views, and an "at-oneness" that said you are or were kindred spirits, or that you had the capacity to communicate heart to heart, or spirit to spirit.  Use this as a guide for improving the other relationships in your life.

Hopefully, most of us have known the joy of that ideal relationship. Maybe there have been many that fit that description; maybe there are just a few.  It is a joy possible for all of us to experience more frequently.  In order to achieve this elevated relationship, we will need to allow the pure love of Christ to permeate our lives and our associations with other people. Maybe we need to dim our critical eyes a little.  Maybe we need to be more forgiving. Certainly we need to open ourselves up to the possibilities.  We need to look outside ourselves more often than we do.  We need to unlock that inner self that we overprotect.

Consider the relationships you have now.  Think of a spouse, or a child, or a parent, a friend, a sister, a brother.  Could that relationship benefit from improved communication?

Perhaps on any ordinary day it would seem startling to express your feelings or to show a desire to improve your relationship, but Valentines Day, which is right around the corner, gives us all the foot in the door that we may be looking for.  Take advantage of this time of year when love seems to thicken the air with sweetness.  Find a way to say the things you have been wanting.  Express how you truly feel.  Surprise someone.  It will make their day and certainly strengthen your relationship, welding it together, perhaps neighbor-to-neighbor, friend-to-friend, and most assuredly, heart to heart.

2 comments:

Kim said...

The emotion I feel depends on who says "heart to heart" to me, but mostly it's a good thing.

I think it's a great idea and a great month to do it in!

laura said...

I love everything about love!

It is so much more than words, it's action! It's those thoughtful little things that mean so much and back up the words 'i love you'.

I agree, if it's hard for someone to show love or if they are just out of practice by taking their loved ones for granted, February is the PERFECT month to get back into the swing of things!