Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Recalculating Route

I have a Navigator on my phone.  I have a love/hate relationship with it.  It has gotten Brian and me out of many a pickle in our explorations.  I won't say it has "saved" our marriage, but it certainly eliminates a lot of stress and makes traveling in new territory much more relaxing and enjoyable.

Then why do I sometimes hate it?  Well, aside from the annoying voice, there are a couple of phrases that we have heard a few too many times:  "Make the next legal U-turn" and "Recalculating Route"!
I have thought about those directions and even though they are irritating to hear when navigating unfamiliar roads, what a blessing they really are!  Sometimes we do find ourselves going down the wrong path and need some course correction, and it is usually when we are too proud to admit it on our own. 


I believe we all have a "Navigator", giving us direction and guidance if we will attune ourselves to hear it.

Brian and I have received the not-so-subtle instruction to "Recalculate our Route".  And we are.  Good health has become more precious to us after having caught a glimpse of the dangers and limitations of poor health.  There are too many things we still want to do in our life together; too many places we want to see; too much service we want to be involved in.

Changing direction is difficult.  Finding a place to make a safe U-turn isn't always easy.  Yet we have; we have made a complete 180 degree course correction.  I pray that we will have the strength and the courage to continue down our newly chosen road.

And maybe I can get rid of my "fat" jeans....


Monday, January 10, 2011

Our January Birthday Girl

Today is your day.  Today is the day we look back and remember your beautiful eyes, and your amazing smile, and your incredible memory, and your fascination with details and trivia.



And your brilliant mind, and your triumphant singing voice, and your talented and gifted hands.
You are one of our greatest blessings!  You bring joy to our lives every day!

Saturday, January 1, 2011

C'mon Jane! Give us what we want!

As part of a newly formed Book Club, whose members are scattered around the world, I was given the suggestion to read Jane Austen's Northanger Abbey, and then blog about my impressions.


Ah, I love these kinds of books.  Often I have wondered if I was born in the wrong century, finding many charms of ages past to be right in line with my tastes.  The 19th Century was certainly a kinder, gentler society if one was fortunate enough to live among the privileged classes.  Perhaps I could have been content to spend my days expanding my accomplishments, writing letters to acquaintances, and being seen but seldom heard.  (Hmmmm...sounds a bit familiar)

Would I have been content to abide by the structure and rules of social interaction, trying never to let on one's true feelings, and searching often in vain for any clue of returned affection.  (Wait a minute!  Not much has changed, has it?!)

Northanger Abbey is Jane's  tongue-in-cheek response to the popular romance novels of her day, a genre that fed upon society's hunger for suspense and mystery, for gothic melodrama, and a formulaic unpredictable predictability.

Jane satirically describes her heroine as very un-heroine-like.  She's normal.  She has ordinary looks.  She travels in predictable circles, rarely meeting anyone of heroic proportions.  In other words, "Catherine" is just like you and me.

I found it delightfully refreshing to note such a practical approach that stayed fairly constant throughout the book.  Catherine did not find herself in any real danger or peril.  Her thoughts were consumed with balls and gowns, and who might ask her to dance, and whom she might run into by chance if she put herself carefully into the right location.

As most of our own lives go, she does meet her hero, a kind, albeit average gentleman who nobly and predictably plays by the rules of gracious society.  (No bodice ripping here.)

Yet, here is where I find my frustration (not in the lack of bodice ripping...)  The tension and mystery of the very basic climax of "will he or will he not propose" is not taken advantage of at all (like in any respectable chick-flick).  It is treated in the uptight, proper, inexcitable nature of the day, as sort of an "Oh, by the way they're getting married".  We get no impassioned declaration of love.  We get no poetic words delineating the development of mutual affection.  As we know, even "normal" people can feel joy and passion and relief and happiness, which I am certain even our sweet little Catherine and her polite Henry Tilney did.

Apparently in Jane's staid society, they weren't yet ready to share such pivotal, private moments in proper literature.  I respect that.  But if we are invited in to become so engaged in their lives and in their characters, is it wrong for us to feel like we should be part of the resolution?

Did he kiss her?  I guess we'll never know.  Perhaps Jane just intended for us to read between the lines, and draw our own "proper" conclusions.

No Excuses!

In looking forward to a new year of change, of improvement, of accomplishment, I want to quote two of the wisest men I know. The first is President Thomas S. Monson as he quotes another legendary statesman:

"Professor Harold Hill, in Meredith Willson's The Music Man, cautioned: 'You pile up enough tomorrows, and you'll find you've collected a lot of empty yesterdays.'

"There is no tomorrow to remember if we don't do something today, and to live most fully today, we must do that which is of greatest importance. Let us not procrastinate those things which matter most." (Conference Report, April 2003)
Are you a procrastinator?  Are you merely dreaming of better days, or are you doing something to assure them?

My new mantra for the new year is "No Excuses!"  And that is how I intend to live. 
I know that I have weaknesses that have held me back in the past.  No excuses.
I know that I am getting older, with all the limitations that imposes.  No excuses.
I know that I get distracted by time-wasters.  No excuses.

The old cliche' has been around a long time because it is an indesputable truth: 
 The longest journey starts with just one step.
I am choosing to look  forward, with my eyes on the promise of a brighter future,
 determined to take it one step at a time..

And the value of that first small step?  "Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great."  D&C 64:33

Happy New Year!

Friday, December 31, 2010

A Hole in One's Heart

Everyone has one.  Everyone has a spot that seems empty, that previously was filled with something or someone special.

I have been overwhelmed lately with the volume of sad news in my own circle of friends.  So many illnesses, and deaths, and closing of chapters in loved ones' lives.  In my own home there are "closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters", to quote my friend Paulo Coelho.

I believe one of life's challenges is to find ways to help fill those holes; to help heal them in our own hearts and in the hearts of others.  We must look outward for new opportunities and new relationships.

The new year sounds like a good time for healing. 

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Coming Clean

The guilt is too much.  I must confess. So why not to the entire blogosphere?

This morning I was at the grocery store and had taken a detour to somewhere I did not belong.  I recognized the undeniable guilt I was feeling by what was running through my head.   I kept thinking:  'Oh, I hope no one sees me!  Please don't let anyone I know see me'

I wasn't perusing the wine aisle;  I wasn't buying beer.



Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Where are the One-Year-Olds?

"It's too quiet..... Where are the One-year-olds?"  Robert's mother-in-law asked in the aftermath of a huge family Christmas.  Our granddaughter Evelyn is blessed to have two cousins her same age, all born within just a few weeks of each other.  When they get together they have all kinds of fun. 
That wise grandmother knew that quiet can be dangerous and sent one to investigate. This is what Uncle Brad found:  Evelyn and her cousins were in an upstairs bathroom, gathered around the toilet.  They had filled it with toilet paper and toys, were playing with the plunger, soaked from head to toe with toilet water, and were eating the wet toilet paper.

Their only comments, from their limited vocabulary?  "Uh oh!"

I can only imagine, as they continue to grow up together, all the adventures these three will have.